Divorce–3 Things You Should Expect During the Process

divorceOnly on rare occasions is a divorce a happy event in one’s life. Couples may be glad to get out of a bad situation and move on with their life, but there’s more to the story than that. Breaking up is difficult no matter what. As with any situation, it’s best to be as prepared as possible so you know what to expect during your divorce and can handle things in a healthful manner.

3 Things to Expect During a Divorce

Obviously there are more than three things that will happen during the divorce process that you need to be aware of. Today, however, we’re going to discuss three things that affect everyone and why you need to be aware of them.

  1. Real Life Isn’t Like Court TV. While popular, court TV shows don’t always show the full picture and can, therefore, be quite misleading according to mediator and writer Elinor Robin. If you’re going through a divorce, don’t look to a divorce court TV show as your reference for how things will be handled during your proceedings. The majority of cases aren’t settled in a half hour time block as portrayed on television. Real life court is often slow-paced due to the complexities of real life. Another thing to be aware of is that court TV doesn’t follow up with divorcees after the show has aired. The show is over and that’s that. From the spectator’s standpoint, one person won, the other lost and the winner walks away happy. In real life, however, there are very real financial and emotional tolls that affect all involved.
  2. You’ll Need Extra Support. Regardless of whether your breakup is smooth or messy, you’re going to need support. Even those who have a somewhat easy time of it find that they deal with feelings of inadequacy, failure, anger and depression after their marriage has ended. Those who deal with abusive circumstances will have an even harder time going through this process. It is vital to have a support system during this period of your life. Whether your support system is your family, friends or a counselor, you need at least one person you can count on during such a difficult time.
  3. The Children Will Be Impacted No Matter What. Again, just because a divorce is going smoothly doesn’t mean it doesn’t have an impact. This is especially true of any children involved. It doesn’t take much change to affect the routine or emotionally stability surrounding children. Be aware that the breakup of a marriage will have an impact on even very young children and that your children, like you, will need support.

Your Family Lawyer Is There For You

While not a counselor, your divorce attorney can do a lot in the way of support. They will be in your corner throughout the whole process, ensuring you stand up for your rights and get what you’re entitled to receive. If need an attorney, contact the law office of John C. Fitzpatrick today. We’re here for you to help you through your divorce.